It's been almost a month!
Okie, life had been very interesting. Yes, VERY interesting. In fact, life before was fun now it's just dream comes true. I am having a lot of changes according to one of my friend. Physically, everybody notice that I am changing(some part of me is, the rest still the same).
So what happened for the past month, other than me changing.
I got my first salary, and which was cool! And I used 1/4 of it to shop for clothes, which was much cooler than getting it. And I loved the clothes which I got to reward myself. I bought 5 blouses and a jean short pants. Next month, I'm gonna buy new shoe. :D (and oh yeah, the rest of the money goes into my bank account)
I am getting better and better at work. I know how to do alot of things which I didn't know how to do before. Still figure out things. Sometimes I don't get the chance to really work with real customer's hair. SOmetimes I do, when there's really no choice, and I am the only option when there's bunch of other customer's waiting.
I learnt how to actually communicate with the customers. Sharing about my personal life and their life was not a big deal. All the woman(Majority are aunties.) who came in the salon, got their own story. Few short sentence, can acutally make out alot of stories. Pretty cool to know more about them, and compared with them.
Well, other than that, I do learn to apply time with my job. I estimate how long does it take for me to do a task, and who can continue my work, and who I can continue their work. But I must say, my schedule after work is a mess! I didn't go to church for more than a month because I was too busy working. It's not an excuse, I just can't leave my post. My mom advised me to find a night Sunday service. Now I am still trying to figure out whether to change my church to other church that can apply with the time I have after work. But then, that can only happen when I got my license, cause I would need a transport.
I did got sick last week, which was most horrible things that happened for this month. I had soar throat, flu(cold), and diarrhea(For a day only). But I got better now :D
My parents went holiday to China today. Their going out for 2 weeks! So, now I am left with their jobs and I got their responsibility. Which mean I had to work 7 hours at salon. And another 4 hours at my dad's office. I had to deal with my mom's customer, and also my dad's customer. And it's gonna be really busy for coming 2 weeks! And I am incharge in making sure everything goes well when they come back.
A lot of things happened so fast, and I really can't cope and bother to remember it. Cause some part of it ain't that important to be left in my brain. SO, that's should be about today's post.
Take care everybody! Bye
Felt like I got Ran over by a herd of Elephants.
It also felt like I got shot by the gun in the chest. The pain were unbearable and I just want to end my life that moment, but then, I can't.
"If today got time, ask dad bring u go public or uob bank make u a debit card. because i just know maybank n alliance cant use is paypal. i cant go because i got work n sat n sun bank is close." - her
- I called her and asked her why I need to go to the bank and make a debit card, and she told me so..
"If your bux.to pay out lend me some invest Neo. Neo 1 mins pay out only" - her
"But I need to get my 550 back first, ada baki then give you invest, but what's in for me if I borrow?" - me
"No need la. U r so stupid. U wan me to wait another half year for that bux.to? Nvm. I don need ur help" - her
"Ok" - me
- Told mommy and daddy that she wanted me to lend her some money.
"Who ask u tell dad ha? Do u wan to make me tell dad how u use ur 500?" - her
- I looked for my dad, and asked what he did. I was very mad at him for telling her what I said. Dad said sorry to me, but it was too late I told him. (I wept)
"I just mentioned to them that you want to borrow my money. That's all. Daddy call you, I oso don't know,, If you want to tell than tell la. Already so long liao that money.. All you want to see is me getting scold." - me
"Ya. U oso want to see me getting scold ma. If not y did u tell them I wan to borrow ur money huh. U think im stupid. I'm telling u now, i'm just did what u did to me. U n me no more relationship. U bitch" -her
"I swear I never said anything bad things at your back. You always buaya, not just me who said that, mummy oso thinks so. I don't want to keep talking all the crap you did. But the fact is, you borrow my money and said you going to pay me back. But in the end you ask me to get it back from daddy. I ask you to remind him to pay me back. Then you act as if I grab it from you"
"Did I paksa you to pay back? You sendiri pay me bacl. Why the heck I want to see you get scold. You think that's fun. In the end who are the one's yg get hurt?
"It all started because I borrow you and you didn't pay me back even though you get your salary. You're expecting daddy to pay me. You think that's nice ah? Bull shit. You got no self responsibility.. No gratitude.. No self control in spending." - me
"Shut the fuck up. Since the day u took my 200 I already dont admit u as my blood related family. Ur in my hate from that day until forever. That money I just press from atm and 1 hour later, u just took it away from me. I promise myself i will not help i anything n will not share anything with u anymore from that day." - her
*I wanted to continue... But the best was just listen to her, and shut the fuck up... Things won't get any better if I continue the phone SMS. What did I ever did wrong! Some one tell me please!
PS: I did not took her 200. It was mine which I borrowed to her around 1 and a half month ago. Bull shit bull shit!!....
Bux.to Works?? Or just another scam..
Okie, six months ago, I registered to a PTC programe, called Bux.to which I thought I give it a try.. After long long wait, I finally received my first payment, via alertpay (Suppose to be paypal, but they changed to alertpay).
Even though it was just a small amount of $14 dollars, it's still an amount of money which I get from not doing much any effort. I am not going to encourage readers to join this programe, but readers are all welcome to sign up, and give it a try. It might not be a scam at the moment, but I can't guranttee YOU what will happen in the coming future. For the mean time, the fact was, they did paid me after 6 months waiting.
How Bux.to works
Bux.to is NOT a Autosurf, Multi-Level Marketing, Pyramid, Ponzi, Matrix or "Get Rich Quick" scheme.
Bux.to is a new innovative, international and FREE English based service that allows advertisers to reach thousands of potential customers by displaying their ad on our, "Surf Ads" page. A exact calculated percentage of all advertising revenue is paid to our members. Bux.to makes money via advertising, other advertising sources throughout the website as well as earning through direct sponsorship of other Bux.to members, just like a regular member does.
How you make money
You view websites in 30 second sessions via the "Surf Ads" page. Once the 30 seconds is up, you'll either get a green tick sign or a red 'X'. The green tick sign means you've earned $0.01 and as premium member $0.0125 for the visit and the 'X' means you have not earned money for the visit. You'll get red X's when you have more than one website from the "Surf Ads" page open. When this happens, you get no credit.
A valuable benefit to both the members and the advertisers is the repeat exposure that the advertiser gets. Whenever you click and view a website, you can visit that website again in 24 hours as long as the visit cap hasn't been reached. That's right! After 24 hours you can click and view the website again. This gives the advertiser optimal exposure by using "repeat advertising" and it further increases the members earning potential.
Since I got my payment, I think it's fair enough that I show the proof to you guys. Here are some proof of pictures I took from their website.
My balance now.
So, if you're interested, you can enter HERE and take a look.
If you want to register, I would be happy, that you could add my account as your referral. XD
The best is just click from this LINK - HERE, and it will fill in the referral.
Or you can do it manually.. when you register, remember to fill in my name on the referral blank.
Referral: catherinecham
Click the banner to register
The Hardest Part [www.wbschool.org]
There are many "first steps" in life, and they are usually the hardest. If you want answers to life's questions, this is your first step. The hardest part is over.
"As children bring their broken toys with tears for us to mend, I brought my broken heart to Him because he was my friend. But then, instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone, I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own. At last I snatched them back and cried, "How can you be so slow?" "My child", He said, "what could I do? you never would let go."
-Anonymous
How comforting to know that while you have been searching, God has been working preparing special blessings with you in mind, and waiting for you to take that first step. Can we walk with you?
For more other short story - www.wbschool.org
Unfinish Picture
Before I decided to stop schooling at SIA (Sabah Institute of Art), I was actually preparing my sketching project. We were being ordered to find a picture of a human face, and sketch it out. Which I did... But never finish it... Or even passing it up...
Anyway... Now I'm having "INTENSIVE" training from my MOM! She taught me alot and I'm learning new things other than just being a shampoo girl. (Tomorrow, Tuesday, 8/July.. Which will be my big day. My mom promised me to let me try cut my dad's hair. LOL.. Can't wait!)
On the contrary...
Last month there had been a hair function. My mom attended it just to keep herself updated for the latest hairstyle.
It's a Hair Course by a Taiwanese Professional Hairstylist, Jong Yuan Lee. Organised by S.K. Trading Co.
Sponsored by Alfapart & Wellson
It held on the 19th and 20th June 2008
My mom only went to the first day course. The next day she did not go, because my mom's mom (my grandmother) passed away. (Thanks for all the condelence I am receiving.) Anyway... Here are some pictures which taken on the first day by my mom. Enjoy!
How to Handle a Bitchy Insult with as Much Poise as Possible
Today was not so busy at work. So I picked up a Female Magazine (http://www.femalemag.com.my/), and flipped the page. And I came across a part of article in the magazine. Was pretty interesting. So I would love to share everyone what I read. Which is going to be the title of today's post.
How to Handle a Bitchy Insult with as Much Poise as Possible
Acknowledge the Insults
Take Time to Respond
Try Fogging (Making the insult less obvious)
Throw Back the Insults
Accept it Positively
If You Must
**We cannot be responsible for another's behaviour, but are always accountable for our own.**
When You Wear the Other Shoe?
Take Responsibility
Say "I'm sorry I made you feel that way" instead of, "I'm sorry you feel that way".
Explain you did no mean to hurt
However don't use that as an excuse. You must realise that your actions, whether intended to cause hurt or not, did infact do that.
Display Regret
Show the other person that your're affected too.
Make a Concrete Promise
Apologize nicely for what you said and promise will be more sensitive to what you're going to say to them next time. The other person can only forgive you when they know you will never hurt them again.
Right the Wrong
You can ask the other person what you can do to make up your thoughtlessness and asinine words. (Promise would be more careful.)
Are You An ALPHA Female? [www.femalemag.com.my]
(Just short and simple summarized infos I read from the Page.)
In a world where only the strong survive, the alpha female may find herself taking this rule too far.
There's a new breed of woman. They rule the boardroom, the bedroom, and any other room into which they walk. Aggressive, ambitious, sexually powerful and dominant.
These are women who deny they are like other woman. The best way to communicate with an AF is to be honest and straight to the point.
AFs are very intimidating to others, this makes it difficult for them to make friends and allies.
For AFs in this situation, treat your friends the same way you would treat your family. Just soften your usual approach.
Never ask her to defend her position. Instead, ask her to explain it. While explaining, she may spot flaws in her own logic but even if she doesn't, it will otter you an insight into how she thinks. When alpahs think you undersatnd their goals, they may consider alternate ways of reaching them.
Offer as many details as possible. Non- alphas bosses want to hear you say you'll take care of it. Alpha bosses in the other hand, wants to know how you'll take care of it.
Don't confuse arrogance with self-confidence. Alphas may think they are smarter than anyone else, but they also have an inner critic. Though they won't respond to flattery, they will to specific praise.
Don't ever complain to alphas. They see it as weakness. Instead, ask for advice from them.
If an alpha is wrong, let her learn from her mistakes. She will accept it better that way.
How to Help Someone Who have the Thought of Commiting Suicide.
I just finished watching part of the episode of a chinese drama, "The Chamber of Sorrow". It is a drama about a family, how they deal with their emotions, problems, conflicts, trials, obstacles and all the challeges they are facing(One of the scene; The woman tried to attemp suicide after being rejected by her love one badly eventhough she know she is married to another man which she have no feelings towards). I have not yet reach the last episode of the story, I would not know how the ending might end up with. Anyway... I've been thinking alot, and read articles from website, even heard it from friends, they are actually facing the same categories of problem.
What I think...
I believe the reasons why human go through all of this emotions and trouble, because they are always a worrywart. Worry what will happen and coming to them in the future. The definition of worrywart; People who always thinks about unfortunate things that might happen. Some people just wear masks and try to make it not so visible by others and not letting them know that they are having this kind of situation of problem.
Everybody will go through this kind of emotions in life. No one is exceptional. Part of the emotional pain what I am going share about is being depress. Depression that causes the big cases such as suicidal attempts among adults even among the youngsters.
If you've been diagnosed with depression, you may wonder why it had to happen to you. The fact is that anyone can get depression.
The first step in fighting depression is to understand what it is, how it affects you, and what causes it.
Simple cases, when a person is in depress, they probably would just cry out on public or find a room, and where there will be no one to see and hear them do so and they would just cry it out. Some people, would just put their depression away into a level at the bottom of everything, and keep it to themselves and not even want to express it out.
That's what happened when they don't even share what they feel to other person. End up they attempt suicidals (Suicidal people often feel terribly isolated; because of their distress, they may not think of anyone they can turn to, furthering this isolation) just to get rid of that emotional pain that they are having.
So, it is a priority that everyone should learn how to handle or deal with their own depression when they are in such mode with positive and healthy way.
What is Depression?
Some people say that depression feels like a black curtain of despair coming down over their lives. Many people feel like they have no energy and can't concentrate. Most people with depression never seek help, even though the majority will respond to treatment. Treating depression is especially important because it affects you, your family, and your work. Some people with depression try to harm themselves in the mistaken belief that how they are feeling will never change. Depression is a treatable illness. via
Many people suffer from depression and don't even acknowledge it or recognize the symptoms enough to seek treatment or help. Depression itself is caused by an imbalance of brain chemicals as well as other factors. We read many quotes in psychological journals and on health websites that describe depression as "feeling like a black curtain of despair coming down over your life". Those that suffer from depression often lack energy to even get out of bed in the mornings. They are unable to concentrate on any task for very long and they become overwhelmed with negative feelings and thoughts. The bigger problem that exists is that most people who have depression will not actually seek help and get on a treatment program to lift their emotional and mental states of mind. If you are a woman, you are almost twice as likely to become drepressed as man. Via
What are the causes of Depression?
Depression has no single cause; often, it results from a combination of things. You may have no idea why depression has struck you.
Whatever its cause, depression is not just a state of mind. It is related to physical changes in the brain, and connected to an imbalance of a type of chemical that carries signals in your brain and nerves. These chemicals are called neurotransmitters. Some causes are below;
So.. How are you going to help your friends or yourself IF they felt like they wanted to attemp suicide or even tried to attempted suicide? (This is what I had read from articles, and what I know. Can be false XD)
When something bad occured in our life, even though we tried to avoid from it, end up we are depress over someting which we, ourselves think that we do no deserves it in our life.
But does it mean it's right to have the thought of giving up? Yes, it's okie to have the feeling of giving up. It is also a positive thinking of learning from failure in our life. So, what happened when you kept failing and never seems to able to make the right choice in your life?
That is why we need to learn how to control, deal or handle with our emotions of being depress properly in a healthy way.
Does talking about suicide topics would encourage a person?
It depends what aspect you talk about. Talking about the feelings surrounding suicide promotes understanding and can greatly reduce the immediate distress of a suicidal person. In particular, it is OK toask someone if they are considering suicide, if you suspect that they are not coping. If they are feeling suicidal, it can come as a great relief to see that someone else has some insight into how they feel.
This can be a difficult question to ask, so here are some possible approaches:
"Are you feeling so bad that you're considering suicide?"
"That sounds like an awful lot for one person to take; has it made you think about killing yourself to escape?"
"Has all that pain you're going through made you think about hurting yourself?"
"Have you ever felt like just throwing it all away?"
The most appropriate way to raise the subject will differ according tothe situation, and what the people involved feel comfortable with.It's also important to take the persons overall response into consideration when interpreting their answer, since a person in distress may initially say "no", even if they mean "yes". A person who isn't feeling suicidal will usually be able to give a comfortable "no" answer, and will often continue by talking about a specific reason they have for living. It can also be helpful to ask what they would do if they ever were in a situation where they were seriously considering killing themselves, in case they become suicidal at some point in the future, or they are suicidal but don't initially feel comfortable about telling you.
Depending on a person's individual response, risk factors that may contribute to a person feeling suicidal include:
- Significant changes in:
- Relationships.
- Well-being of self or family member.
- Body image.
- Job, school, university, house, locality.
- Financial situation.
- World environment.
- Significant losses:
- Death of a loved one.
- Loss of a valued relationship.
- Loss of self esteem or personal expectations.
- Loss of employment.
- Perceived abuse:
- Physical.
- Emotional/Psychological.
- Sexual.
- Social.
- Neglect.
Like I mentioned before, depression is the main reason we human have the thought of giving up in life including wanted to commit suicide.
If you think you are depressed, you’re not alone. Depression is far more common in teens than you may think, and there is a lot of hope and help on the horizon. No matter what you believe, people love and care about you, and if you can muster the courage to talk about your depression, it can — and will — be resolved. Some people think that talking about sad feelings will make them worse, but the opposite is almost always true. It is very helpful to share your worries with someone who will listen and care, especially a trained professional who can guide you towards feeling better.
What you can do to help..
Depression is not your fault, and you didn’t do anything to cause it. However, you do have some control over feeling better. Staying connected to friends and family, sharing your feelings with someone you trust, and making healthy lifestyle decisions can all have a hugely positive impact on your mood.
- Ask for help if you’re stressed
- Try not to isolate yourself
- Remember that you are not alone
- Keep your body healthy
- Avoid alcohol and drugs
- Talking to your parents about depression
Get your friend to talk to you. Starting a conversation about depression can be daunting, but you can say something simple: "You seem like you are really down, and not yourself. I really want to help you. Is there anything I can do?"
Know that your friend doesn’t expect you to have the answers. Your friend probably just needs someone to listen and be supportive. By listening and responding in a non-judgmental and reassuring manner, you are helping in a major way.
Encourage your friend to get help. Urge your depressed friend to talk to a parent, teacher, or counselor. It might be scary for your friend to admit to an authority figure that there is a problem. Having you there might help, so offer to go along for support.
Stick with your friend through the hard times. Depression can make people do and say things that are hurtful or strange. But your friend is going through a very difficult time, so try not to take it personally. Once your friend gets help, he or she will go back to being the person you know and love. In the meantime, make sure you have other friends or family taking care of you – your feelings are important and need to be respected, too.
Speak up if your friend is suicidal. If your friend is joking or talking about suicide, giving possessions away, or saying goodbye, tell a trusted adult immediately. Your only responsibility at this point is to get your friend help, and get it fast. Even if you promised not to tell, your friend needs your help. It’s better to have a friend who is temporarily angry at you than one who is no longer alive.
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away. Cherish your life, and always be thankful of what you have now.
Reference;
Why do people suicide?
Treatment for Depression.
Dealing with Teen Depression.
Understanding and Treatment Depression
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Enforce Economy in Thoughts and Time
(Bridget Menezes: Author of Self-Empowerment) Source: Daily Express, Sunday, July 06 2008
WHAT goes on in our minds affects all that we say and do, making the difference between success and failure. When working well, the mind is the source of ideas, inspiration and innovation, the creator of clear communication and high quality decisions. When working badly, it can be the source of hopelessness, depression and fear.
The raw material of mind is thought. Business plans, intricate design, new products and even whole new philosophies - all begin as a single thought in someone's mind.
This is then further shaped and brought to life through words an actions. People who are successful have usually taken time to organise their thought patterns. They are aware that their mind is precious reservoir from which thoughts are created to actualise their dreams.
Those with clear mnds are able to make good decisions.
Thoughts and time are our invaluable properties. Enforce economy in the use of these properties.
Between activities stop for half minute of peace, take a few deep breaths, stretch and look at something in distance. Do this before the next conversation, before you pick up the phone or begin the next task. Make space for what is to come. Reflect, and allow your head and heart to respond naturally.
Thought for reflection:
Be more efficient and tranquil. Relax amid activity. Create mental space. Enjoy frequent retreats into timelessness.
Ageing: Improving Your Life Expectancy
In life there are no gurantees but when it comes to life expectancy there are things you can do to improve your chances. America's National Imstitute of Ageing tested more than 3000 people to reveal the time it takes a person over 70 to walk 400 metres. The distance is about one lap of your local football field.
"The key is if it takes longer than five minutes to complete the lap, there is a 30 per cent higher chance of death within for years. So staying active, keep you alive."
Professor gary Kennings from the Baker Heart Research Instisute said how we walk can tell us a lot about our health, particularyly the state of the heart.
"We have used the walking test for some time, particularly in assessing problmes like cardiac failure, which is an increasingly common problem in the eldery", he said.
"Heart disease is the biggest killer in the world and it's now becoming a major cause of disability." Professor Jennings said it is never to late to get moving. (Better late than Never!)
About 90 per cent of heart disease could be prevented by knowing about your risk factors like blood pressure, cholesterol, smoking, healthy nutrition and remaining physically active.
But by the time many people reach the age of 70 then can suffer any number of ailments, which hold them back from being active. Sue Stanly makes a living out of motivating people towards a healthier lifestyle. She said it is easy to be lazy but that could take years off your life.
"The benefits that you actually get for leading a healthier lifestyle, it's not just all about weight-loss, it's about other health conditions as well", she said.
"Your heart condition, your high cholesterol, all these conditions can be managed and controlled by diet and exercise." So what are you waiting for? Get yourself some jogging shoes and get active today!
Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever. Better late than never my fellow readers... A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step!
Book Introduction: The Answer [Taken from Daily Express]
Planting [Inspirational Story by www.wbschool.org]
Plant trees instead. The results can be far-reaching and eternal.
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